Conference confidence by embracing vulnerability

I just came back from attending a conference. It was my first time going to this conference and I only knew less than a handful of people before arriving.

As an introvert I knew I was going to need to (kindly but intentionally) push myself a bit to meet people and attend the ‘networking’ and social events, instead of hiding out in my hotel room. So, despite the initial discomfort - accessing my courage muscles - I made a point of speaking to a range of new people.

And I was so rewarded for my efforts! Not only did I connect with many lovely new people, I met a physician who works with my grad school roommate, and I also met a psychologist to whom it turns out I am related. (Distantly, but still very cool!)

As exciting as that was, it wasn’t even the best part.

Most importantly, I met multiple people who expressed their own version of discomfort with networking and the need to (again, kindly but intentionally!) push themselves outside of their comfort zones. Even most of the presenters, all significantly accomplished health professionals, also acknowledged that they were feeling incredibly nervous being on stage. It actually became a bit of a running joke - in nerdy scientist style with lots of fight-or-flight references. :)

It was so normalizing, and connecting, to have people openly share their self-conscious struggles in these ways. (The power of connection and compassion, as well as owning our sensitivities!)

So if you have ever doubted it, my recent experience was some solid proof: most people dislike networking and feel nervous presenting in front of their peers. Regardless of how it may appear on the outside.

As valuable as this knowledge is, even better is when we can seize the opportunity to take the courageous risk of simply sharing with another person that we are feeling nervous or uncomfortable. It is such a great way to open the door to new experiences and connections. You really never know what you might discover!